I appreciate your comment and respect your right to avoid depressed men. It’s probably a good idea. But I’m describing a marriage, and when you’re married you make an oath for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. You might feel differently if you were married and got cancer and your spouse said I didn’t sign up for this and left you. And people CAN and DO help their partners with mental illness, just as they can and do help with other sicknesses. They provide accountability and support, both of which are huge. Any long term relationship is absolutely going to see big problems like this at one time or another.

If a person is unwilling to uphold their oath, then they shouldn’t make that oath in the first place, because there is a 100% chance that something’s gonna happen to one or both spouses over the course of a marriage.