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4. Google Didn’t Go To Graduate School.

Have you ever Googled unusual health symptoms in a self-diagnosis attempt?

If so, you’re not alone.

Through the course of just one year, digitalhealth.net reports that over 100 million health-related Google searches took place in the UK alone, with anxiety and depression being two of the top searches.

While the internet is a great place to get basic information, you need to be careful about your research, especially when it comes to your mental health.

Here’s a video PsychCentral published about self-diagnosis of mental illness:

Here are 9 reasons why you shouldn’t use the internet for mental health self-diagnosis.


#7. Can I ask my therapist what they think of me?

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Are you new to therapy? Do you have awkward questions you want to ask your therapist? Are you hesitant to ask them because you’re not sure if you can? Do you feel more comfortable searching for answers on Google?

You’re not alone. Every day, thousands of people ask Google questions that only a therapist can answer.

As a licensed therapist myself, I want to help, so I spent some time analyzing search queries on Google. There are dozens and dozens of them, so I picked 12 that you might have a hard time asking. …


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The opening crawl of The Empire Strikes Back makes one thing clear: Darth Vader is a man on a mission. In the previous Episode, the Rebellion has struck a critical blow to the Empire with the destruction of the Death Star, but Vader remains undaunted.

If anything, his failure has only strengthened his resolve. The last paragraph sums up his motivation:

The evil lord Darth Vader, obsessed with finding young Skywalker, has dispatched thousands of remote probes into the far reaches of space….

Say what you will about the Sith — Vader is all about setting goals. He knows what…


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Since we’re all about dehumanizing them anyway.

The subject of Narcissism has skyrocketed in popularity in recent years. I first thought it was a reaction to the election of Donald Trump, but in truth, we’ve been heading in that direction since the novel 50 Shades of Grey first introduced a Hollywoodized version of Narcissistic Personality Disorder to tweens in 2011.

Almost a decade later, you can’t toss a dead squirrel without hitting dozens of articles, memes, and videos from self-proclaimed “Narcissistic Abuse Recovery” experts who seek to shame, vilify, and expose the narcissist for what he truly is.

And why not? Narcissism is big business. According to…


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These are just so, so bad.

Communication is an art. This is especially true in psychotherapy, where effective communication is critical. A well-chosen word can strengthen a therapeutic relationship. Words help establish rapport, demonstrate empathy, and build trust.

In short, what a therapist says matters.

And this is also true for the average person as well. Especially in relationships, where healthy and effective communication is often the difference between a painful breakup and a love that lasts a lifetime.

Of course, not all words are created equal, and poorly chosen words can stop a session dead in its tracks. …


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Because happiness is for losers.

Do you attract creeps, control freaks, abusive alcoholics, and narcissists? Have you had to secure at least one restraining order because you broke up with some lunatic who had his mom text you that he was going to commit suicide unless you took him back?

Would you like to learn how to ruin a great relationship?

Let’s back up a second here because this is important:

Do you want to date train-wrecks?

Are train wrecks your spirit animal?

Are train wrecks your jam?

These guys satisfy your need to be in control while reinforcing your poor sense of self-worth. …


TL;DR — shit got really bad.

“I don’t think I should be here anymore,” she said, digging for her keys. This was in 2008. The sky was overcast and gray, the air crisp and dry.

The neighborhood was so still I could almost hear her thoughts.

“I had a good time,” I said hopefully. “And my mom always likes to see you.”

“Your mom’s great,” she conceded. She had found her keys and was walking to her car. I followed.

“I’m really starting to feel better now,” I told her. “Really I am. The sky is bluer. I can hear the birds chirping. I can think…


Trauma, it seems, is contagious.

This is for all the people who are broken. You know who you are. We all have the same look in our eyes. You know the one. It’s like if sadness could stare at nothing. I’ll bet you know it well.

Here we go.

I have been told by those who know me that I can be an ass. That’s fair; I own that. It’s not my defining trait, but sometimes it’s true.

Once I was happy and personable and eager to please. …


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Welcome to Blunt Therapy, a blog about mental health.

In an effort to streamline information, let’s just jump right into it, shall we?

Blunt-Therapy focuses on mental and behavioral health, counseling, and psychology. We also post the following topics:

  • Substance Abuse and Addiction
  • Effective Parenting Tips and Analysis
  • Healthy Relationships and Communication
  • Politics and Current Events, as they relate to mental health.

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“Never pick a fight with people who buy ink by the barrel.” — Mark Twain

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“Revenge is a dish best served cold.” — Old Klingon Proverb

Ah, writing.

There’s nothing quite so exhilarating as knowing that your words are being read by a large audience. In fact, the only thing that trumps the thrill of a large audience is the thrill of a small audience — namely, an ex who kinda had it coming if I’m being honest.

Before I begin, I feel the need to state emphatically that I adore women. My mom’s a woman, and she’s just the best. I have three sisters who are women, too, if you can believe it. I…

Randy Withers, LCMHC

Therapist. Managing Editor, www.Blunt-Therapy.com | 📧: support@blunt-therapy.com

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